Kathy's typical pattern is
Friday - Chemotherapy infusion day, good energy, good appetite, some jitters from the steroids
Saturday - Good energy, good appetite, some jitters from the steroids
Sunday - Waning energy, moderate appetite, bone pain
Monday - No energy, moderate appetite, extra sleep needed, bone pain, bland diet
Tuesday - Low energy, extra sleep needed, bone pain, bland diet
Wednesday - Low energy, bland diet, extra rest needed
Thursday - Moderate energy, bland diet
Friday - Moderate energy, stomach pain, bland diet
Saturday - Moderate energy, stomach pain, bland diet
Sunday - Moderate energy, stomach pain, bland diet
Monday - Good energy, moderate appetite
Tuesday - Good energy, good appetite
Wednesday - Good energy, good appetite
Thursday - Good energy, good appetite
What environmental risks caused the cancer at this point in her life? Exposure to the cadmium and other heavy metal pigments in her traditional oil paints? Pesticides in the environment? Bisphenol in cans? Free radicals?
We've talked about psychoneuroimmunology, the impact of mood and outlook on the ability to combat disease.
The past two years have been challenging for Kathy - helping our daughter grow from high school to college, transitioning to an empty nest, creating an art gallery business in a challenging economy, sharing the stresses of my Federal/State/local work (especially Meaningful Use for several hospitals and 2000 doctors), and supporting the health needs of our parents.
Although they past few years have been stressful, all the events are consistent with our expectation for this stage of life.
One event in the past year was a bit out of the ordinary. A 19 year old with a very poor driving record (4 points on his license, 1 high speed collision, 1 hit and run etc.) drove down the wrong side of the road around a line of traffic and hit Kathy's car as she was exiting a parking lot. It was very clear from the position of the impact that it was caused by a driver violating the law.
Kathy filed an insurance claim and provided all the details of the accident.
The 19 year old driver lied about what happened.
Our insurance company decided Kathy was at fault, gave her a point on her driving record, and added a multi-year surcharge to her insurance.
When Kathy pursued the issue, noting that the 19 year old with the poor driving record was lying, the insurance company told her that without a photograph of the accident or an independent witness who was willing to verify the events, they would have to believe the 19 year old because Kathy was exiting a parking lot and that makes her at least 51% responsible. Despite Kathy's over 30 year good driving record, the insurance company representative literally ended the conversation with the statement "Life isn't fair".
That episode temporarily caused Kathy to lose her faith in humanity and gave her a sense of helplessness in a hostile world.
As with any conflict or issue, for everything there is a process.
Kathy appealed the ruling to the Massachusetts Board of Insurance and wrote an eloquent letter stating the facts.
Today the Board of Insurance ruled she was not at fault, rescinded the point on her license, and demanded that the insurance company refund/rescind the surcharge. She cried when she opened the letter. The nice guy can still finish first.
This weekend we'll continue our search for local farmland by touring Harvard, Massachusetts with locals recommended by our next door neighbor. The cancer diagnosis constrains our possibilities but has not dulled our enthusiasm for a long and fulfilling future.