As I mentioned last week, I knew that traveling would make me uneasy. I made a commitment to friends and colleagues over a year ago. Backing out would impact the plans of many people who had agreed to 5 days of meetings in Shanghai as part of an effort to share US lessons learned in care processes and technology. With Kathy's consent and perfect timing, I did the trip.
Kathy's support system includes her father, several fellow cancer survivors, and our next door neighbor, who is a heme/onc nurse from Dana Farber with 35 years of experience. Our next door neighbor was very interested in visiting old friends at BIDMC and volunteered to take Kathy to cycle 4 of chemotherapy tomorrow in my absence.
I'll return by Sunday night just as the effects of chemotherapy are beginning.
Kathy's doing well. Before I left, her left breast was examined and the tumor that was very pronounced a few weeks ago, could no longer be found on palpation. It's clearly responding well to the chemotherapy.
We confirmed this week what we had expected, chemotherapy has induced chemical menopause. Thus far, no hot flashes, mood changes, or sleep disturbances.
We're staying in touch by email. I have a generous international roaming data plan while traveling. Kathy's putting all her energy in the farm search, which is very therapeutic for both of us.
This will be my only overnight travel without her during chemotherapy. She'll join me for my April keynote in San Francisco and a May keynote in Vancouver. There are a few same day Washington and Chicago trips but those will not conflict with her treatments or her low energy days.
Care at a Distance is emotionally challenging - I want to be home and focused on Kathy. Our emails, her support system, and a mutual shared project to create a life beyond a 5 year survival statistic give us both comfort that all will be well.